Gentle Ways to Help a Loved One with Dementia Change Clothes
Hey, SF Bay Area family!
It’s Gina here from GoldLeaf Homecare, and I know today’s topic is one that can be tough for a lot of us—helping a loved one with dementia get dressed or change clothes. If you’ve been there, you know it’s not just about the clothes; it’s about patience, understanding, and sometimes a little bit of creativity. But you’re not alone in this, and I want to share a few tips that can make this part of your day a little smoother.
Why Can Changing Clothes Be So Hard?
Dementia changes the way someone experiences the world. Something as simple as changing into fresh clothes can become confusing or even scary. It might be because they don’t understand why they need to change, or maybe the steps feel overwhelming. Knowing this can help us approach those moments with a bit more empathy—and a lot more patience.
But I promise, there are ways to make it easier. Let’s get into a few tips that I’ve seen work wonders for families right here in the Bay Area.
Tips for a Smoother Dressing Routine
1. Keep It Light and Positive
Here’s the thing—if we’re stressed, they’ll pick up on it. So try to keep things as calm and light-hearted as possible. Approach it with a smile, even if you’re feeling frustrated. You could try saying, “Hey, let’s get you into something more comfy!” instead of making it sound like a chore. It’s a little shift, but it can make a huge difference.
My advice? Focus on making the moment feel easy and natural. It’s not about “changing clothes”—it’s about getting them comfy and cozy.
2. Make It Easy with a Simple Setup
Too many choices can be overwhelming, so try laying out just one outfit for them. You might even place the clothes in the order they’ll put them on—like the shirt on top, then pants underneath. It helps them see what’s next and takes the guesswork out of the process.
My advice? Go for clothes that are easy to slip on, like loose tops and pants with elastic waistbands. Trust me, it’s a small change that can save a lot of time (and frustration).
3. Create a Distraction, Make It Fun
Sometimes, changing clothes goes better when their mind is on something else. Maybe put on some of their favorite music, or talk about something you both enjoy—like reminiscing about that sunny afternoon at Crissy Field or how good the coffee is at their favorite spot in Palo Alto. It’s amazing how a bit of conversation can make them feel more relaxed.
My advice? Make the moment about connection, not just about changing clothes. It’s those little chats that can turn a difficult moment into something much more pleasant.
4. Find the Right Time
Timing can be everything. If mornings are tough, try later in the afternoon when they might be more relaxed. Pay attention to when they’re in a better mood throughout the day and aim for those times. It’s all about finding the sweet spot when they’re most cooperative.
My advice? Don’t stress if it doesn’t go smoothly the first time. Sometimes it’s better to take a break and try again a little later.
5. Give a Little Help, But Let Them Lead
Sometimes they might just need a little nudge—literally. Gently guiding their arm into a sleeve or helping them pull up their pants can make the process smoother. But it’s important to give them as much independence as they can manage, even if that means moving at a slower pace.
My advice? Always ask before jumping in to help—like saying, “Would it be okay if I helped with this button?” It helps them feel like they’re still in control.
Wrapping It Up: It’s All About Patience and Kindness
I know, helping a loved one with dementia change clothes can be hard on the heart. But it’s also a chance to show them love in a gentle, practical way. By keeping things calm, making the process simpler, and finding those little moments of connection, you can turn a tricky part of the day into a time where they feel cared for and safe.
And remember, if you need advice, a helping hand, or just someone to talk to about the challenges of caregiving, we’re always here at GoldLeaf Homecare.
With love and care,
Gina Martinez
President, GoldLeaf Homecare
(650) 861-8228 | www.goldleafhomecare.com