Things to Do While Visiting Aging Parents for the Holidays

Hey there, SF Bay Area family!

It’s Gina from GoldLeaf Homecare, and as the holiday season approaches, I know many of us are getting ready to visit family—especially our aging parents. For so many of us, this is one of the rare chances during the year to spend extended time together. It’s not just about celebrating the holidays; it’s also about reconnecting, checking in, and creating memories that remind us what this time of year is all about.

If you’re planning a visit to your parents, you might be wondering how to make the most of your time together. How can you celebrate while also ensuring they’re doing okay? Today, I want to share a few ideas to help you enjoy meaningful moments while also lending a hand in a way that feels supportive, not overwhelming. 

1. Simply Catch Up on Life

Sometimes, the most important thing you can do is just be there. Sit down with your parents, ask about what’s been happening in their lives, and listen—really listen. Ask about their favorite TV shows, what they’ve been reading, or their thoughts on the holiday season. These small conversations mean so much more than you might realize.

My advice? Give them your full attention. Put down your phone, look them in the eye, and soak up the moment. It’s often the simplest things—like a heartfelt chat over a cup of tea—that stick with us.

2. Take a Quiet Look Around the House

While you’re visiting, take the opportunity to notice how things are going in their living space. Is the house tidy? Are there any safety concerns, like cluttered walkways or expired food in the fridge? Without making it a big deal, keep an eye out for small signs that might indicate they could use extra help.

My advice? Approach this with kindness. Instead of saying, “This place looks messy,” try, “Hey, let’s tidy up a bit together so it feels more cozy.” This keeps the conversation supportive, not critical.

3. Cook or Bake Together

Food and family go hand in hand, especially during the holidays. Cooking or baking together isn’t just a way to share a meal; it’s an opportunity to bond, laugh, and maybe even pass down a family recipe or two. Plus, it’s a great way to check on their eating habits and make sure they’re getting proper nutrition.

My advice? Keep it light and fun. Whether you’re baking cookies or whipping up their favorite holiday dish, it’s all about the time spent together—not perfection in the kitchen!

4. Reminisce Over Old Photos and Stories

Looking through old photo albums or sharing family stories is such a meaningful way to connect. It’s a chance to revisit happy memories and learn more about your family’s history. For your parents, it can be a heartwarming reminder of the full life they’ve lived—and for you, it’s a chance to ask questions you might not have thought to ask before.

My advice? Be curious and let them take the lead. Ask things like, “What was this holiday like for you growing up?” or “Tell me about this picture!” These conversations can bring laughter, tears, and a deeper connection.

5. Plan a Simple Outing

If your parents are up for it, plan a small outing they’ll enjoy. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy—maybe a drive to see holiday lights, a trip to their favorite local café, or a short walk around the neighborhood. The change of scenery can be refreshing and uplifting.

My advice? Keep their energy levels in mind and don’t overdo it. Even a short, thoughtful outing can create wonderful memories without leaving them feeling too tired.

6. Help with Small Tasks

Many parents won’t ask for help outright, but that doesn’t mean they don’t need it. While you’re visiting, offer to tackle a few things they might be avoiding—like fixing something around the house, organizing paperwork, or setting up new technology. These small acts can make a big difference.

My advice? Offer your help casually, like, “While I’m here, want me to take a look at that leaky faucet?” This keeps it low-pressure and shows you’re happy to lend a hand.

7. Have the Important Conversations

The holidays can be a good time to gently check in about future plans. Do they feel safe and happy in their home? Are there any concerns they haven’t brought up? These conversations don’t have to feel heavy—just approach them with love and curiosity.

My advice? Frame it as a way to ensure their comfort, like, “I just want to make sure you’re feeling good about everything at home. Is there anything you’ve been thinking about changing?”

8. Create Moments of Joy and Laughter

At the end of the day, the holidays are about joy. Don’t let the visit become all about responsibilities—make time for fun! Watch their favorite holiday movie, play a game, or just share a good laugh. These are the moments you’ll both cherish long after the season is over.

My advice? Let yourself relax and be present. It’s the laughter, the hugs, and the shared smiles that truly make the holidays special.

Wrapping It Up: Love Is the Greatest Gift

Visiting your aging parents during the holidays isn’t just about the big gestures—it’s about the little moments. It’s the quiet chats, the shared meals, the way you show them, through your actions, how much they mean to you. By being present, lending a hand, and creating moments of joy, you’re giving them the best gift of all: your love.

And if you ever feel like they could use extra support beyond what you can provide, remember that GoldLeaf Homecare is here to help. We’re always here to make sure your parents are cared for with the same love and attention you give them.

With love and care,

Gina Martinez

President, GoldLeaf Homecare

(650) 861-8228 | www.goldleafhomecare.com